You may not realize this, but there is a menacing monster common to most people. We have all seen it from time to time. It is there lurking in the background waiting to strike at just the right moment. When we least expect it, it is there. Some people are so used to having it around, that they think it is normal and acceptable.
That monster is called FEAR! Fear is the great paralyzer. It can overtake and overwhelm your endeavours in short order. Fear can halt a great effort with little effort. If you are not aware of its ugly presence, fear can prevent you from ever making a change. It can easily rob you of any hope for a successful outcome.
As Dr. Charles Stanley said, “Fear stifles our thinking and action. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence and the downward spiral begins.”
Giving into fear is easy. Anyone can do that. It takes no talent or great skill to allow fear to control you. But you can get beyond fear and slay that ugly monster. Here are steps to doing just that.
- Understand FEAR: This is something that most people do not understand, and many of us who do comprehend it, struggle with it regularly. Fear is merely expecting the worst outcome in a given situation and allowing yourself to buckle under to belief in that result. Fear is a fictitious story playing itself out in your mind. Know the truth. What you fear is unlikely to actually happen.
- Identify FEAR: As soon as you say, “it can’t be done” or “I can’t do that”, stop what you are doing and change the story that you are telling yourself. Rather acknowledge that what you are experiencing is fear and fear is irrational. If you have a fear of something like public speaking, admit it. Realize that everyone on the planet speaks, it is not an unusual task. Your fear can be conquered.
- Conquer FEAR: Once you have identified fear, look that ugly monster in the face, walk towards it. You will see it for what it really is, a nonsensical story, and that will destroy it. Take action. When you move forward in-spite of your fears, you will see how small they are in reality and they will diminish, and disappear. Victory will be yours.
Eventually you’ll look back and laugh at how silly your fears were. You will learn that fear is usually unfounded and was your biggest stumbling block to success. You will find that success breeds success, which in turn defeats the ugly FEAR monster. It will become a springboard in your journey to success.