So, I just had one of those weeks. You know the ones. It starts of very innocently. One of your family members has an issue and they ask for your help. So you stop what you are doing and do your best to be supportive. That help ends up expanding to take up almost all of your day. The next day you wake up and think “phew” thank god that is over. Now I can back to concentrating on my project. Then you get a call from another friend…

“Hey man, I don’t mean to drop a bomb on you but…..”

You think “OK, just one more quick conversation”. Then before you know it, the flood gates open. It seems like everyone in your close circle has a complete melt down at the EXACT same time. Oh and by the way, they want you to help them fix it. Now I don’t know if you believe in the Law of Attraction but I experience theses result in everything. When I am making great money I can’t seem to keep it away. When I am on the hunt for opportunities I all of a sudden get a 100 in a week.

Where focus goes energy flows.

I literally had the entire world’s problems drop in my lap all in one week. It was exhausting. I did my best and gave all the advice I was asked for. I crashed into bed every night and found myself totally backed up on work by the following week. I thought I was back to normal and then BAM, Monday started off with more drama. This is when I had a realization.

I left my gate open.

If you are a person of power, love, energy, etc you are naturally someone that people want to be around, in good times or bad. Think about experiences you have had and you will know I’m right. People will come to you as much as you let them. If you leave your gate open or there is a hole in your fence people will come in. It’s ok to help from time to time but it is necessary for your own energy and sanity to know exactly where the boundries are and stick to them.

I have exactly five minutes….

I don’t think it’s healthy for me to be involved in that…..

No, I do not think taking snake charming classes together is a good idea……

It’s not rude. It’s not inconsiderate. It’s not unholy. It’s the most basic form of self-preservation. It’s control over your mind. If you doubt me, then say yes to everyone for a couple weeks. You will be so sick of it by then end that you will be miserable and cynical and won’t want to help ANYONE for a very long time. How is that any good? That’s where I was yesterday.

So what am I going to do?

A couple of really simple things: I am choosing to spend less time with those who constantly take and rarely give, I gave clear directives that I was done talking about certain issues, I turned my focus back on myself and informed everyone that I was on drama sabbatical for the next six months. Guess what?

My week got a lot more fun.

To your success,

Aaron Parkinson